Can You Live In A House Built By Your Wife?

ChizoAfricans and Nigerians specifically attach a lot of importance to the headship of a man in the home and the respect accorded such. There are many issues that seem to test or prove a man’s virility as well as his leadership abilities. One of such is the question of living in a house built by one’s wife. OLAIDE ALADESANMI and FOLUSHADE AJAYI speak with Nigerians.


Even if my wife owns 20 houses and many cars, I can never live there or use her property because it won’t augur well. How can I move to my wife’s house without building mine? In fact, it is very bad. In Yoruba land, it will be as if the wife has charmed the husband, I think I can never do it.
Oluwaseun Adebanjo
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Even though I love my wife, that is no reason to descend so low as to go and live with her. No matter how much she has, she is still a subordinate to me, she will still be under my roof. If she owns a house, she will either leave it there or rent it out and if I have a room, she will be leaving in that room with me. She is my wife and she has to be devoted to me for life, she can’t just tell me that my husband, let’s move to a house I built, I think I can never go because I’m not a coward.
Frank Okoye
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No, I can never pack to my wife’s house because she ought to pack to my house –not the other way, because women use it as an opportunity to insult their husbands and turn them to another thing just because they own the house. A husband should be the head of the family, but the women will start behaving as if they are the landlords of the house. She will have to rent out the house built by her.
Ejima Okechukwu
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I can never go with her because whenever you are trying to correct her for doing something bad, she will never take to correction. A day will come that she will insult you in the presence of her family. I can release her to live there alone. But if she really loves me, she can let the house out and we will be living in our rented house. Otherwise, she will live there alone and the children can follow her if they like but that doesn’t mean that whenever my female children have anything to do like marriage, I won’t go there. I will, though I will never sleep there.
Olukunmi Ajayi
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I will rather pray to God to build my own house but I can never follow her to her house, because there will be so many problems and again, the woman will have no respect for the husband anymore. You know, you won’t have any say over something that does not belong to you. There is no way a woman can take care of the house for one month without the whole world knowing about it but a man can take care of a house for life but people will say it’s his responsibility. There is a lot of arrogance in women.
Kehinde Olaniyi
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In the first case, she must tell me before building the house and if by the time she finishes and by that time, God has not built one for me, I don’t have one of my own, I will not go with her because women are proud and arrogant. There is no way a woman will do a favour for her husband that she will not find a way to remind him of what she passed through just to annoy the man. And when there is a disagreement, what do I do if she asks me to leave her house? If she loves me, she must live where I’m living.
Idris Ajibade Abdulrahim
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It is not proper for a man to pack to his wife’s house because one day, the woman will send the man out of the house if he misbehaves, so a man should not relax, he must work very hard so that a woman will not become the head of the house, it’s not a good thing. If she informs me earlier, I can help her for supervision.
Adegbemiga Ogini
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I cannot move to my wife’s house; the reason is that she must tell me before she erects the building because I am her husband. We are joined together as one, so we ought to do things together but if she decides to build her own house, then she will live there alone or go her own way.
Sola Ojo
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In Yoruba culture, it is a very bad thing for a man to move to his wife’s house, it’s like a man sleeping in a dumping ground. It is a woman that should move to a man’s house –not the other way round. If any man does it, he has ridiculed himself and can never rid himself of the insult until he comes to his senses. There is nothing God cannot do, let the woman go on her way.
Ola Masopa
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Living in a woman’s house is a very terrible thing. I don’t think I can live in a house built by my wife, with the way women behave these days. They will be full of pride and keep on reminding you of what they have done for you.
Idris Musa
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Whatever belongs to my wife belongs to me, so I can live in her house.
Chizo Best
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Since my wife and I became one when we married, her house is also mine. Nothing stops me from living there.
Mdu Samuel
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Yes, I can live in my wife’s house. I don’t see anything wrong in it as long as I have my own job as well.
Deco Umar
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There is nothing bad in staying in a house built by my wife because what belongs to her belongs to me. The Nigerian mentality is that it is not good but as for me, I see nothing wrong in it.
Jimoh Adedeji
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She must have built the house because she has a better job and I believe she built it for her children as well. The only thing that may stop me from living there is if she built it without my knowledge. That would be very bad and it will make me very angry.
Francis Akodomoen
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I can live in a house built by my wife because whatever belongs to her belongs to me and vice versa. A woman does not own property where I come from and she cannot openly announce that any property belongs to her. Besides, no one needs to know that the house belongs to her. It will be a secret between us.
Tony Obi