Dear Yemisi,
I am pregnant for a man who is in the university. I have just finished from secondary school, but I don’t have money to further because I am from a poor background.

Since I told him that I am pregnant,  he has been avoiding me. He told me to abort the pregnancy, but I don’t want to abort it.

What can I do to be saved from this mess?

Delee.

Delee, It’s a pity you found yourself in this situation you are in now. Having understood this, first, you do not have to concede to abortion as this is a sin against man and God. Killing the child is pure murder. I am glad you did not choose the latter.

You see, life is not about goodies, but you need to seek the face of God and also plan, so that you do not end up living a miserable life. Marriage should be planned to glorify God. Having an affair before marriage is a sin which has led to the situation you are in now. To be a single mother is a very big challenge knowing well the background you are coming from. You should have taken precaution and to understand that not all that glitters is gold.

The mistake has already been made, if you can convince your parents and also the said boy to take responsibility of the child and also have you as his wife, good. If after talking to him, and he fails to see reasons of taking responsibility, if you know his parents, go with your parents to meet them and explain to them that their son is responsible for your pregnancy. If he/they fail to concede to this, approach some women organisations or ‘NGOs’ and have this reported to them. They will have him take care of the child, even if he does not want to marry you.

If you need any form of advice, write back and I will advise you.

God will help you out and please, be careful in life as the taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. Stay clear of sex until you are legally married.
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Dear Delee, Although your mistake is costly but it will be more grievious if you made abortion an option. After you couldn't further your studies due to financial incapability, you should have been more concerned about how you can move on with your life, either by learning any vocation or finding something doing to plan for the future. My advice is, you need to meet the parents or relatives of your man, provided you know any. Meet them politely, if you seek God's forgiveness, you might be favoured and they will be ready to accept your baby since your man agreed he is responsible, but wants abortion. Forget about shame now because you were not careful enough to have prevented it. Don't ever try abortion, it is an act of murder and if you do, you may be barren for eternity. This will only make you learn your lesson. I wish you God's favour.                     Obaado 'Lanre, This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

Delee, I cannot begin to blame you now, because the deed has already been done. Try to relax and let the pregnancy be. God will see you through the delivery. After having your baby, you can try to get some financial assistance to further your education. I want to believe that you have learnt your lesson the hard way. I pray that God will cover your shame with his glory- SHALOM- Mrs Olayemi O.A.

Delee, if you know you want to be a single mother, you can keep the baby. Remember, vehicles are parked at owners risk- 08050504616.

Delee, I advise that you need to tell the man who is responsible for your pregnancy that you are  no more interested, because your father did not accept your marriage to him- 07044406309.

Obviously, Dele you are reaping what you had sown earlier. It is a pity that you have suddenly woken up to the reality of your life. But your best bet is to keep the baby- Igwe- 07063839270.

Delee, keep the pregnancy and be prepared for the worst- 08074894844.

Delee, has been deceived into this mess already. You must accept your fate to nurse this pregnancy to become a great personality who can reward and console you by putting behind you the wounds and devilish advice of your runaway lover- Ashaolu Rotimi- 08033796044.

Delee, you should inform your parents about the pregnancy and give them the address of the man’s parents. I will also counsel that if possible that your parents  take you there. I need to tell you that this issue can be reported to the police. 08050200364.

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