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I am pregnant for a man who is in the university. I have just finished from secondary school, but I don’t have money to further because I am from a poor background.
Since I told him that I am pregnant, he has been avoiding me. He told me to abort the pregnancy, but I don’t want to abort it.
What can I do to be saved from this mess?
Delee, It’s a pity you found yourself in this situation you are in now. Having understood this, first, you do not have to concede to abortion as this is a sin against man and God. Killing the child is pure murder. I am glad you did not choose the latter.
You see, life is not about goodies, but you need to seek the face of God and also plan, so that you do not end up living a miserable life. Marriage should be planned to glorify God. Having an affair before marriage is a sin which has led to the situation you are in now. To be a single mother is a very big challenge knowing well the background you are coming from. You should have taken precaution and to understand that not all that glitters is gold.
The mistake has already been made, if you can convince your parents and also the said boy to take responsibility of the child and also have you as his wife, good. If after talking to him, and he fails to see reasons of taking responsibility, if you know his parents, go with your parents to meet them and explain to them that their son is responsible for your pregnancy. If he/they fail to concede to this, approach some women organisations or ‘NGOs’ and have this reported to them. They will have him take care of the child, even if he does not want to marry you.
If you need any form of advice, write back and I will advise you.
God will help you out and please, be careful in life as the taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. Stay clear of sex until you are legally married.
Delee, I cannot begin to blame you now, because the deed has already been done. Try to relax and let the pregnancy be. God will see you through the delivery. After having your baby, you can try to get some financial assistance to further your education. I want to believe that you have learnt your lesson the hard way. I pray that God will cover your shame with his glory- SHALOM- Mrs Olayemi O.A.
Delee, if you know you want to be a single mother, you can keep the baby. Remember, vehicles are parked at owners risk- 08050504616.
Delee, I advise that you need to tell the man who is responsible for your pregnancy that you are no more interested, because your father did not accept your marriage to him- 07044406309.
Obviously, Dele you are reaping what you had sown earlier. It is a pity that you have suddenly woken up to the reality of your life. But your best bet is to keep the baby- Igwe- 07063839270.
Delee, keep the pregnancy and be prepared for the worst- 08074894844.
Delee, has been deceived into this mess already. You must accept your fate to nurse this pregnancy to become a great personality who can reward and console you by putting behind you the wounds and devilish advice of your runaway lover- Ashaolu Rotimi- 08033796044.
Delee, you should inform your parents about the pregnancy and give them the address of the man’s parents. I will also counsel that if possible that your parents take you there. I need to tell you that this issue can be reported to the police. 08050200364.Share